MedFet, or medical fetishism, is an umbrella term that covers a wide range of medical procedures or situations re-enacted in a sexual or erotic context. In its simplest form, it’s like a grown-up version of “playing doctor.” MedFet enthusiasts might engage in activities such as at-home medical exams (like pelvic or prostate exams), enemas, dental play, or role-play scenarios such as the sexy nurse or eager intern. As with most sexual activities, what MedFet involves varies widely depending on the individuals involved.
In this article, we’ll introduce you to some of the most common types of medical fetishes, the popular tools used in these scenarios, and provide tips on staying safe and enhancing your enjoyment for those looking to explore medical kinks.
Understanding Kink vs. Fetish
Before diving into the different aspects of MedFet, let’s clear up the distinction between a kink and a fetish.
A “kink” refers to any sexual or erotic activity that is outside of the mainstream. Common kinks might include leather or latex, crossdressing, bondage, spanking, or other power dynamics. Kinks can also involve specific objects, like shoes or floggers, or focus on parts of the body not usually considered erotic, such as feet or noses.
A “fetish,” on the other hand, is something essential for sexual fulfillment. A fetishist might require their specific fetish to achieve arousal or orgasm. Kinks can be enjoyed occasionally, but fetishes are often necessary for a fulfilling sexual experience. For fetishists, their particular fetish may even become a part of their lifestyle.
Common Types of Medical Fetishes
When people think of medical fetishes, “playing doctor” is usually the first thing that comes to mind. This can involve full-body exams that may or may not focus on intimate areas. But there are many other facets to MedFet:
“Complete” Physicals
For many MedFet enthusiasts, general physical exams are an introductory step. One woman, Mary, started out by indulging her husband's medical kink with a sexy nurse costume and simple role-plays like taking blood pressure or checking temperatures. As her comfort grew, so did their exploration into more elaborate scenarios with real medical gear. While for some, the nurse uniform may evoke a dominant female figure, for others, it’s simply playful fun.
Prostate or Pelvic Exams
These intimate exams often involve gloved hands, flashlights, or speculums, mimicking real procedures with an erotic twist. These exams may involve gentle caresses or dirty talk and often serve as a prelude to sexual play. Speculums are available in both anal and vaginal varieties, and it’s essential to use the correct one for the right context.
Dental Play
There’s even a fetish related to teeth, known as odontophilia. This could involve anything from biting to more elaborate role-plays, like pretending to be a dentist. Some enthusiasts invest heavily in dental equipment for their play, but whether you’re after the procedure or the pain, consent and communication are key.
Breast Exams and Mammograms
While a sexy mammogram may sound cringe-worthy to some, others enjoy incorporating breast exams into their medical play. For some, it even provides an opportunity for healing, helping to build trust and comfort in intimate settings.
Caregivers and “Sexy Nurse” Role Play
Caregiver fantasies, such as the sexy nurse trope, are common even among more “vanilla” couples. The allure frequently stems from the power dynamics at play. Some enjoy the nurturing aspect of the role, which might include sponge baths, slings, and even bedpans to complete the nursing experience.
Why Do People Have Medical Fetishes?
It’s easy to assume that medical fetishes arise from a crush on a doctor or nurse, but that’s rarely the case. The reasons behind MedFet are as varied as the individuals who enjoy them. There is some science to suggest that fetishes may develop during puberty due to misfires in the brain, particularly in the somatosensory cortex or the temporal lobe. For others, the association of early "playing doctor" games with exploration of the body may carry into adulthood.
According to University of Oxford psychologist Barbara Santini, the appeal of medical fetishes often stems from the unique power dynamics and the arousal that can come from vulnerability and control. The clinical nature of medical procedures can be transformed into a highly immersive and erotic experience for those who enjoy this form of play.
Tools and Toys for Medical Fetishes
Medical fetishists often use specialized tools and costumes to enhance their play. Some common items include:
Scrubs and Costumes
Scrubs and nurse outfits are popular in MedFet scenes, available in various styles, from realistic to sexy.
Gloves
Latex or vinyl gloves are often used in medical play for their tactile sensation and the authentic hospital-like feel they bring to the scene.
Pinwheels (Wartenberg Wheels)
These spiked wheels are used to test skin sensitivity and can range from gentle to intense depending on the pressure applied.
Speculums
Speculums, both vaginal and anal, are used to simulate exams. These tools should be used with care and proper knowledge to avoid injury.
Sex Furniture
Sex furniture, such as adjustable tables or ramps, can enhance the experience, though it’s important to ensure safety and comfort.
Catheters and Bedpans
Though more niche, these items can add another layer to medical role-play, particularly in caregiver scenarios.
MedFet Safety Tips
As with any sexual activity, MedFet requires informed consent and a focus on safety. Here are some key tips:
Informed Consent: Always discuss preferences, boundaries, and limitations with your partner before engaging in any medical role-play.
Knowledge of Tools: Make sure you understand how to safely use any medical tools or equipment to avoid injury.
Safewords and Signals: Establish clear safewords or signals that can be used if the scene becomes too intense or uncomfortable.
Proper Restraint Use: If using restraints, ensure they are applied safely and allow for communication and circulation.
Santini explains, "Embracing the individuality of our desires, including those tied to medical fetishes, can enhance and deepen our intimate experiences. As with any form of exploration, it’s crucial to approach it with respect, open communication, and a genuine understanding of both your own and your partner's needs. The journey of sexual discovery is personal, and navigating it with empathy and attentiveness is key."