Welcome to the exciting world of strap-on play and pegging! Whether you're new to this or looking to enhance your experience, having the right gear is essential for enjoyable and satisfying play. You don’t need the most expensive equipment, but you do need gear that suits both you and your partner’s needs. Frustrating gear can ruin the moment, so let’s focus on how to select the best options for you. By customizing your strap-on kit, you ensure a better fit for your preferences rather than settling for a pre-made package. This guide will help you navigate the overwhelming number of options and choose the ideal strap-on harness set for your needs. Let’s dive in!
Choosing a Strap-On Harness
The harness is the most crucial component of your strap-on kit. An ill-fitting or uncomfortable harness can detract from your experience, so finding the right one is key to ensuring your strap-on play is as enjoyable as possible. Here’s what you need to know when selecting a strap-on harness.
Types of Strap-On Harnesses
Strap-on harnesses typically come in three main designs, each based on the strap style that secures the harness to your body. While all harnesses wrap around the hips for stability, the placement of the additional straps differentiates the styles:
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Single-Strap Harness: This design features a single strap that runs between the legs, similar to a thong. It’s easy to use but may offer less contact between the dildo and the wearer’s body.
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Double-Strap/Jock-Strap Harness: With two straps that run between the legs and under the buttocks, this style offers better dildo contact and stability. It’s a bit more complex to wear but can provide more sensation to the wearer.
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Panty-Style Harness: This option resembles regular underwear with a built-in O-ring for the dildo. It’s comfortable and familiar but may have limited adjustability and less contact during play.
Strap-Ons and O-Rings
O-rings are the rings that hold the dildo in place within the harness. Harnesses come with either built-in or interchangeable O-rings.
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Built-In O-Rings: These are sewn into the harness and usually made of stretchy rubber. While convenient, they may limit the variety of dildo sizes you can use.
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Interchangeable O-Rings: These can be swapped out to accommodate different dildo sizes. They’re held in place by snaps or buckles, making it easy to switch dildos mid-session.
When choosing between these options, consider how often you might want to change dildos and whether you prefer the flexibility of interchangeable O-rings.
Sizing Your Strap-On Harness
Strap-on harnesses come in various sizes, but most are adjustable to fit a wide range of body types. Single-strap and double-strap harnesses are usually more adjustable, while panty-style harnesses may have limited adjustability. Pay close attention to the size range listed for each harness, especially if you’re plus-sized or have a smaller frame.
Selecting a Dildo for Your Harness
Once you’ve chosen a harness, the next step is picking the right dildo. While the harness is essential for the wearer’s comfort, the dildo should be chosen with the receiver’s pleasure in mind. Here’s what to consider:
Dildo Width
The width of the dildo is the most important factor for both fitting the harness and ensuring the receiver's comfort. Make sure the dildo’s diameter matches your harness’s O-ring size and that it’s comfortable for the receiver, especially if you’re engaging in anal play.
Dildo Length
While width is usually the most critical factor, length also matters. A dildo that’s too long can cause discomfort, especially if the receiver is new to strap-on play. Keep in mind that both the vagina and the butt have sensitive areas that can be irritated by overly deep penetration.
Dildo Material
Choose a dildo made from body-safe materials, preferably phthalate-free and sterilizable. Silicone is a popular choice because it’s easy to clean and doesn’t retain odors.
Vibrating Dildo
Some strap-on dildos come with vibration features, which can enhance the experience for both the wearer and the receiver. Consider whether this is something you’d enjoy.
Dildo Appearance
The look of the dildo is also important. Some prefer realistic designs with texture and testicles, while others might opt for bright, non-realistic colors. Choose a design that appeals to both you and your partner.
What About Strapless Strap-Ons?
While strapless strap-ons might sound appealing, they can be challenging for beginners. They require managing multiple factors like the angle, lube, and comfort for the wearer. It might be best to start with a traditional strap-on setup before exploring strapless options.
Don’t Forget Non-Hip Harnesses
If hip harnesses don’t appeal to you, consider other options like thigh harnesses. These alternatives can provide different sensations and might be more comfortable depending on your preferences.
Strap-On Kits: A Convenient Option
While customizing your strap-on kit can offer the best fit, there’s nothing wrong with choosing a pre-made kit if it meets your needs. Kits like the New Comer's Strap-On Kit are designed to be user-friendly and include everything you need to get started. These kits are especially useful if you’re new to strap-on play and want a simple, all-in-one solution.
Final Thoughts
Now that you have a better understanding of how to build your own customized strap-on kit, you’re ready to make an informed decision that suits both you and your partner. Whether you choose to build your kit piece by piece or opt for a convenient pre-made set, the most important thing is to ensure both comfort and pleasure for everyone involved. Happy exploring!